I remember the words my Mother spoke on our drive to drop me off at college. And they continue to echo through the decades and have thus far outlived her by twenty years. I was scared…everything would be new. I was fearful of making friends and adjusting to life different than I had ever known. She kindly told me that I would certainly make friends and although some may develop into deep friendships, nothing would compare to the friendships I had with my two to three closest friends that I had grown up alongside. They would be my forever friends. I have to say…that was a relief!
Do you have those friends? I am blessed that those three are still my closest friends to this day. As young adults they shared in my heartbreak when “that boy” decided to move on, we laughed together, shopped together, kept secrets and always had the other’s back. They walked closely with me through the death of my Mom during my senior year of college and certainly in the years after. They supported me during my engagement and showered me on my wedding day. As Moms we support and encourage each other and learn from each other more now than probably ever before. These are who I consider to be my chosen sisters.
Are you helping your children cultivate those deep, loyal friendships? I find we are so busy with busyness that I truly have not focused on this too much. I am often sidetracked with my own responsibilities, and worried that the house is in such disarray that we just don’t make it a priority. But recently I have again been reminded about the blessing of loyal friendships and the importance of making sure my children have the opportunity to strengthen and develop their friendships from an early age.
So next week is our Spring Break and there are two sleepovers and a few playdates on the books. I am giving myself freedom for it to be messy, disruptive, and even imperfect. Because in the end, friendship can be exactly that way!